NLP, Coaching and Hypnotherapy are highly effective tools in helping people change their way of thinking and behaving.
‘Depression’ is a label given to a person by somebody else, or is a label they have given themselves, and the consequence of this is that they search for information in the outside world (and their internal world) to verify and substantiate this. Yes, there is a chemical side to this. However, when I see clients with this label, I find out how they actually know they have this label, and underneath this invariably find the reality of what is actually causing a problem for them in their life.
I can then go on to help them once this is clarified.
The following is a case study of a client who came for help with Depression and Anxiety.
Peter is in his early 50’s, has spent the main part of his life working internationally in a high profile job which he loved. He then took early retirement, and chose a different career which unfortunately left him feeling worthless, not valued, not fitting in, and unable to use the talents, skills and abilities which he had developed for many years previously.
When Peter came to see me he was very negative, his face was very drawn, his posture was stooped. He explained to me that he felt lazy, tired, and incapable of anything, couldn’t imagine a future at all, wasn’t deserving of anything, and felt no self-worth.
I spent the first session listening to him, and understanding his problems and worries. Peter wanted to be engaging in life again, adding value, being appreciated, having drive and passion and enjoying life with his wife. However, he felt he was in a deep, dark place that he couldn’t get out of.
For the first time in a long time, Peter told me that he now had hope, both for his life and for his future. The simple act of having someone listen to him with understanding and compassion, and be interested enough to ask pertinent caring questions, was of great relief to Peter. His second session involved myself finding areas of his life and previous occupation which was of value to him, and areas of specialisation, skills and abilities which he had forgotten and thought he had lost. Even at Peters second session he was developing the awareness that life was valuable and he had a lot to contribute to society. I sent Peter away with exercises to expand his mind set at home.
When Peter arrived for his third session he looked much brighter and optimistic. What was interesting was that he had highly developed skills, both from an artistic perspective, and a scientific perspective, and he had tried to keep these separate in his daily life. Using advanced NLP Coaching skills, I assisted Peter in integrating these 2 main areas of science and creativity, with the result that he felt empowered to begin making small changes and steps forward in his life. We then created a plan for Peter to take action on doing small things during the following week.
At Peters 4th session he informed me of many jobs and activities he was doing around the house during the past week. He was already beginning to feel like the person he was many years ago.
I continued to coach Peter for 3 months in total, seeing him almost once per week with only a few exceptions. During this time I worked with him in developing abilities which he already had, and developing new ones. When issues of a deeper nature arose the session would develop into a more therapeutic and sometimes hypnotherapy session, however most of the time the sessions were of a more in-time dynamic coaching form whereby I used an integration of NLP and Neuroscience to help Peter develop the mental skills necessary to more towards where he wanted to be.
I saw significant change in Peter and his whole attitude to life. He had gained confidence in himself again.
It was a great satisfaction to me (and him!) when he told me with excitement that he had managed to get a new job of an international nature, which would utilise his capabilities well. He told me he could think much clearer and faster, and he was now excited about life, and looking forward to happy times, both with his wife and his new career. He had come a long way in the short time I had spent with him.
This example is typical of where I combine therapy and coaching successfully to enhance and enable the changes my clients